You have to save yourself from this mess

Dad said, "You got yourself into this mess, now find a way out." If only I knew how right he was. He wasn't trying to avoid helping me. He was indeed helping me learn what would turn out to be a valuable lesson.

If you're like I was (and still am time to time. I mean, c'mon, no one's perfect) you look outside yourself for a way out of INSERT PROBLEM HERE. You sit on the couch for months until finally, you find enough inspiration to get to the gym and workout. Excuses like, "I don't have enough time" or "I can't afford a gym membership" are easy to deflect responsibility for the spare tire hanging around your midsection.

spare tire

Here's the thing, no one else is at fault for you not doing anything to change your current situation. You are. 

So what will you do about it? Feeling inspired to change and motivated to act on it are no substitution for real action taking. Waiting for the perfect moment to get started at the gym is a dead-end strategy. You're never going to WANT to do it. Work with what you have, not with what you think you need. You wait for resources when all you really need to do is be more resourceful.

If money was an issue, sorry but I'm not buying it. There's a Planet Fitness within 3 towns of where you live now and it costs $10 a month to join. Add a quick google search on the phone your reading this on to find a workout program and for the cost of those two Venti Mocha Frappuccinos you already had today you can get access to all the equipment you'll ever need to get into amazing shape.

If time was an issue, sorry, but I'm still not buying it. Google "8-week home-based workout program" and you will be instantly provided with a body-weight based workout that gets results, and likely in about 20-30 minutes a day. You still don't have time? How then is it that you can catch up with all your friends at work every Monday morning about last night's Game of Thrones episode and discuss how your favorite character was killed off this week?

No time? Sorry but I'm not buying it. How you do anything is how you do everything.

You can wait for all the stars to align - to get that big raise that gives you the money you need to afford a gym membership or more time to magically appear into your daily life. Stop depending on someone else. Waiting for your boss to pay you more or HBO to hurry up and get to the season finale of Game of Thrones so you can have more time available is shifting responsibility to something you have total, and I mean TOTAL, control over right now.

You got yourself into this mess. Now take some action TODAY and get yourself out of it.

I thought my dad was a jerk when he tried to advise me on fixing my own problems. Now I know it's me who has to stop shifting blame and take ownership. I now understand exactly what he meant. 

Thanks, Dad.